| | EFT To Build Confidence - Emotional Freedom Techniques Work! Books have been written about it, courses held on it, everyone knows about it's impact on our lives. If you have confidence the world is your oyster. But what actually does it mean?
We often think of so called confident people as brash, gregarious, 'overconfident', insensitive, self opinionated, arrogant and selfish. In other words all those attributes we consider to be rather undesirable to possess.
As we view confident people through the lens of our own limited thinking, subconsciously justifying our own comfort zones what we see at first glance are all those 'negative' attributes a confident person seems to display.
EFT To Build Confidence: So, How Do We React To Confidence In Others?
Often it is thought of as 'compromising, or going along with others' wishes. Doing favors, even when we have important jobs to do for ourselves. Pleasing a spouse, our parents, friends and so it goes on. In other words, for most of us being a 'nice person' entails making sacrifices at the expense of our own wishes and well being.
Taken a step further I could say that we actively deny ourselves happiness in order to please others who are more important to us then we are to ourselves.
All of this goes on subconsciously. It seldom makes an appearance on a conscious level, but rather it just builds resentment nonetheless.
It is this underground thought process that we're interested in here. These thought processes make for limited, and always blinkered opinions. But of course we don't recognize this.
EFT To Build Confidence: What we do recognize however is a feeling of unease when we are around confident people who are behaving differently, on the face of it always getting their way when we seem to always be struggling.
EFT To Build Confidence: A Realistic Assessment Of Confidence When we react to self-confident people as people who are used to getting their way, in reality what we are really seeing here is someone who has the confidence to be true to themselves. These people are comfortable in their own skin.
 Our often limited comfort zones do not permit us to step outside our 'think tank' to see things from the other side of the fence so to speak.
Of course, viewed from a different angle things do look rather different.
It is the old story: See an elephant from the front and what you see is the trunk, ears, legs, feet etc. However, viewed from behind what you see is the tail, backside. legs... and NO trunk.
If we continue this game, viewed sideways the elephant has legs, a rather longer body a tail and a trunk..Well, you got the picture, right?
It is almost impossible to get a complete view of anything.
However, we can broaden our horizons by increasing our awareness.
This means being aware that not all wisdom is in our schools. Often it's those things which we do not possess, skills we see in other people which are threatening to us, because we believe we either do not have these skills/ personality attributes, or cannot acquire them.
In most cases this belief is completely unfounded.
Now, returning to the analogy of how we "see" our elephant picture. The further away, relaxed and open minded you are... the more you see of the complete picture and the less threatening it becomes.
And so it is with the picture of confidence that we have in our minds. Re-evaluating our own perspectives (the way we view the world) from separate angles allows us to at the very least understand our view, and better still CHANGE them.
Understanding our own view of the world better enables us to see certain seemingly undesirable attributes we place on confidence in a completely new light.
EFT To Build Confidence: 'Yes', Confidence Can Be Learned Seeing things in a new light is the first step in learning any new skill. So, you may believe you lack in confidence but there's a conflict if you also still want to be the nice person you always were.
Would it be useful to you to mingle with new people at parties... be able to confidently deliver an after dinner speech... have the confidence to say no to that favor... sell that brilliant idea to your boss... pick up the telephone and make that call to a new, potential customer with ease... wear that dress you love even though your friends say you look too sexy in it?
How do you think your self esteem would rise if you learned to do any of these things with natural self confidence and ease? EFT To Build Confidence: Building confidence means first of all building a conviction that it is useful to you to have this skill.
Fortunately, there many self development tools are around to help you achieve your goal. Guided visualization is one of the many ways you can start building your new mental muscles.
Personal coaching with an EFT specialist (such as myself) is another way. Self hypnosis tapes are also a powerful way of learning, and you can use those while you sleep.
There are many options. Do a little research to find the technique that's right for you, and one that will help you get the best results fast (like EFT).
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